Weatherhold: Chasing reflections with questions stems from conversational insecurity
Jeff Weatherhold · People Learn What They Think When They Hear Themselves Speak · Jul 11, 2025 · at 19:10
Jeff Weatherhold, founder of MI for Health, discusses motivational interviewing and communication techniques with host Sean Weisbrot.
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“Often when I first teach people to begin using reflection more, they will get to this place where they have very long reflections and then chase them with a question to make themselves feel more comfortable. Sometimes we call these spoiled reflections because there's really good reflection in there, and then you follow it with a question.”
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