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Berger: Anyone claiming they can predict industry futures is delusional
“Anybody who tells you they know what's gonna happen next with the media or with professional services firms or in the tech industry or the insurance industry or whatever, like, those people are delusional. We don't know what's gonna happen next.”
Garvey Berger: Leadership programs wrongly treat personal values as discoverable, not developed
“I know so many leadership development programs where people are trying to get folks to kind of name their personal mission, or name their values, or be their own boss, or whatever. Thinking that that's kind of a, I don't know, like an information thing, like a…”
Garvey Berger: Handling ambiguity is a developmental stage, not a trainable skill
“It actually means being able to see a world that's filled with grays and operate in that world anyway, and that's a developmental demand. It's not a skill. It's a thing we grow into.”
Garvey Berger: Anyone claiming to predict tech or media futures is delusional
“Anybody who tells you they know what's going to happen next with the media or with professional services firms or in the tech industry or the insurance industry or whatever, like, those people are delusional. We don't know what's going to happen next. The thin…”
Garvey Berger: Replacing individuals does not alter a team's systemic disposition
“You can see that you could switch out a whole bunch of people in the team and the disposition wouldn't change. It's not actually any one person that brings that in. It's the collective of us and the way we engage.”
Garvey Berger: Collapsing disagreements into one answer is unhelpful in complexity
“Our general desire to collapse those two into one right answer, actually in complexity is unhelpful. We don't know what the right answer is until afterwards. We want to cultivate those two different perspectives. Let's hold on to both of them. Let's not resolv…”
Berger: Great leaders amplify others rather than drawing attention to themselves
“A charismatic leader, when he walks into the room, or she walks into the room, makes you feel good about her or him, right? Like, I walk into the room, and I'm a charismatic leader, and you think, wow, and you think about that person. A great leader, I think, …”
Berger: Excessive certainty blinds leaders to critical early warning signs
“The more sure you are as a leader about exactly what's right and what's wrong, exactly where you're going, the less open you will be to hearing that you're wrong until it's too late. Whereas a leader with more curiosity, more openness to other people's perspec…”
Leadership requires balancing steadiness against displaying excessive vulnerability
“Which involves being not so rock-like, but not so, so much humanity that people think, oh my goodness, like, this leader's losing it. Like, this is all this very, very delicate dance, and maybe it was always delicate, but now it's delicate in a supercharged wa…”
People often listen to fix or win rather than to learn
“I just have this idea that a lot of the time we're listening for a purpose, and mostly that purpose is hidden from us, but if we were to really think about it, our purpose is to win, to convince the person of something, to convince them that in this case, it's…”
Distressed people are rarely suffering from a single isolated problem
“When somebody comes to you in pain, it's almost never I'm worried about this one thing. It's really like my world is falling apart and I'm terrified.”
Minimizing personal distress because others have it worse is completely unhelpful
“But actually, it's completely unhelpful. That comparative, you shouldn't feel this way because other people, like, this is a completely unhelpful self-talk”
Exploring root emotions requires validating surface-level frustrations first
“Without understanding that this thing right now is a really big deal they can't go to the next place. Like if I try to say, oh, you're not really upset about this. You're really upset about that other thing. It's like, screw you, mom. No, I'm really upset abou…”
Society moves into a new reality rather than returning to normal
“They never go back. Nothing is going to go back. Like there, but history never goes back. Like when huge things happen, we don't go back. We go forward. And something new, something dies, and something new is born”
A crisis amplifies relationship dynamics rather than changing their direction
“This doesn't change the direction. It just changes the volume.”
Loss of external control leads people to overcontrol remaining areas of life
“As we're having so much of the control of our lives out of our hands, the things that we can control, we're going to control harder, I think.”
Leaders must manage anxiety rather than demanding excessive reports and scenario planning
“I think a piece of it is for leaders to manage their own anxiety. Not try to get the company to produce things for them that makes them feel as anxious, like more reports and more predictions and more scenarios.”
Remote psychological safety requires the undivided, focused presence of colleagues on video
“I think it's just a shocking amount of the safety we feel is by getting the actual full presence of other humans who are not, not distracted by another screen or half present, but who are actually there.”
Garvey Berger: Self-transforming leaders see solutions single-perspective leaders miss
“It's at that place that leaders have this bigger perspective of A capacity to kind of look across multiple stakeholders and create new solutions, new possibilities that people who are more stuck in their own perspective can't see.”
Garvey Berger: Self-sovereign minds cannot hold perspectives differing from their own
“So in the self sovereign form of mind, which is early in our adult lives, and most people outgrow it, not everybody, but most people, other people's perspectives are just unachievable, right? You just can't take and hold somebody else's perspective if it's dif…”
Garvey Berger: Socialized minds derive self-worth and morality from external expectations
“And that's the socialized form of mind, where you're kind of Your sense of self-esteem and right or wrong comes from outside you and is imported into you kind of without your say, right? And without your ability to have edit rights on those ways you are being …”
Garvey Berger: Self-transforming minds simultaneously hold internal and external perspectives
“I will begin to make sense holding both my perspective and your perspective simultaneously. And I will hold across perspectives so that I can I can not just work with what's inside me, but also work with what's outside me and hold them both. I can be the write…”
Garvey Berger: Adults retain earlier developmental stages but cannot access unreached ones
“And I think it's true that from people who like the farther along this path you walk, the more the earlier stages are kind of in you and familiar and revisitable, you know, like they arise in a different context or at a different time of day or whatever. The t…”
Garvey Berger: Great leaders make others feel bigger rather than demanding admiration
“A charismatic leader, when he walks into the room, or she walks into the room, makes you feel good about her or him, right? Like, I walk into the room, and I'm a charismatic leader, and you think, wow, and you think about that person. A great leader, I think, …”
Garvey Berger: Certainty prevents leaders from learning until it is too late
“A leader who feels certain cannot be learning from other people. So the more sure you are as a leader about exactly what's right and what's wrong, exactly where you're going, the less open you will be to hearing that you're wrong until it's too late.”
Garvey Berger: Soundbites mislead and reduce leadership complexity
“The soundbite that tries to put in a sentence or a phrase the complexity of an actual issue is necessarily misleading and partial, and the more addicted we get to soundbites, and the more hyped up we get by them, then the more simple our leadership will be, as…”
Garvey Berger: Perspective-taking across disagreement drives adult development
“It both creates development and requires development to take other people's perspectives, to take the perspective of Someone with whom we disagree, right? It's easy for us to take the perspective of others who are like us. That's super easy. We do it all the t…”
Garvey Berger: Complex systems inherently have no single root cause
“We tend to be looking for the root cause of something, but like in complexity, there's no root cause. There's no root cause of a hurricane, right? There's no root cause of a tsunami. There's no root cause in nature. There are just many forces that interact tog…”
Garvey Berger: Past organizational success cannot be replicated via standard playbooks
“In complexity, you can look back at it and get most of the patterns of it. Like, why did the culture of this organization go in that direction? Oh, well, we can trace that back. But then if we want the culture of the next organization to go in the same directi…”
Garvey Berger: Complex systems require multiple small experiments over massive bets
“In the complex space, one unit of effort might lead to nothing, or it might lead to huge rewards, right? This is the unpredictable space of orchard growing and not shoemaking, right? It's a place where we just don't know what's going to happen next. And so in …”
Garvey Berger: Brain scans cannot distinguish holding an opinion from recalling facts
“Like, you can't tell the difference in a brain scan between somebody having an opinion and somebody remembering a fact. Our brains think they're the same, and so we have to get really careful with what we think is an opinion and what we think is a fact.”
Garvey Berger: Knowledge workers are valued for willingness to learn, not existing knowledge
“I think that means that the core attribute is not how much you know, but how much you're willing to learn and how much you're willing to question what you know. If what we want is, is stuff that's known, Google will do that for you, right? Like you don't, we d…”
Garvey Berger: Organizations naturally default to conservatism rather than innovation
“Actually, organizations are disposed to be Conservative, right? Once you have something to protect the organism, the organization goes into protection mode, which is not a creative mode. If you want an organization that's disposed to be creative, you have to f…”
Garvey Berger: Systems thinking and perspective-taking define advanced adult development
“The three habits I've talked about, the seeing systems and taking multiple perspectives and asking different questions, those are that the natural habits of people who are farther along in this adult development path.”
Garvey Berger: Companies die because psychological stability feels safer than evolving
“And it's probably the reason that organizations, companies tend to die instead of evolve. Like most companies die and they die relatively early in their potential lifespan. And I think we do that because change is demanding and unsettling and destabilizing and…”
Pandemic conditions consume roughly 30% of a person's baseline energy
“I think this new world that we're in right now skims 30% of the energy off just for living in this world that we're living in. Like, that's just gone.”
Parents rarely reap the full harvest of raising self-sufficient children
“There's a way I feel like parents don't usually get to reap the total harvest of their hard work, because as soon as the kids are self-sufficient, they go.”
Staying present requires conscious effort because minds default to confirmation bias
“If we ease into it, our mind is just going to reinforce what we expect to be happening, and so this is this whole mind trap idea, right? Like, that our mind is always Just looking for evidence to prove its point. And so being in the present is an act of effort…”
Physical touch triggers hormones that soothe nervous systems and support immunity
“Touch is incredibly important to us. We're primates. We are soothed. There are a whole series of hormones that are very good for our immune system that aren't released unless we were touched.”
Garvey Berger: Leadership Wisdom Can Be Accelerated Through Deliberate Work
“So it's certainly been my experience that this sort of progression of wisdom over years of experience, wisdom that can be accelerated but that takes some work that doesn't come for free and doesn't come automatically, that it's that sort of Showing up in the w…”
Garvey Berger: Adult development transforms unconscious assumptions into conscious choices
“Basically the idea here is that over time we develop an ever-increasing view of the world, that those things that earlier in our lives we took for granted or we could not see become objects Of our reflection so that we can make more choices about it, and those…”
Garvey Berger: Leaders should use physical feelings of certainty to trigger doubt
“One of the things I teach my clients is to notice what certainty feels like in your body. Notice that. Like, what does it feel like to know that you're right? Now, when you have that feeling, take one more step and question it. How could I be wrong? What do I …”
Wuhan divorce and marriage rates both jumped 30% post-lockdown
“Yeah, I think the word out of Wuhan is that the divorce rate climbed 30%, but so did the marriage rate, which is very interesting.”
90% of Garvey-Berger's consulting firm lost all income during the crisis
“There are about 50 of us in this firm, but we are all independent entrepreneurs that live under the same umbrella. I don't know what your business looks like, but that's what my business looks like. And for, you know, 90% of my colleagues, their income just di…”