Colonna: Always have the direct conversation to reset draining relationships
Jerry Colonna · Jerry Colonna: The CEO Whisperer · Oct 17, 2023 · at 1:12:26
Executive coach Jerry Colonna discusses with Shane Parrish how to navigate difficult relationship endings and boundary setting.
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“My impulse would be always to have a conversation because the practice of having the conversation, even if the conversation isn't well received, is a good muscle for you to develop.”
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