Murphy: 12-step programs succeed by targeting the ego as our biggest challenge
Jim Murphy · 7 Principles of Inner Excellence to Stay Calm Under Fire | Jim Murphy · Nov 25, 2025 · at 30:43
Performance coach Jim Murphy discusses why 12-step recovery programs are effective when analyzing the psychological necessity of surrender.
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“I think it's so successful because it realizes that the ego, that part of our mind that's always threatened, always comparing, never satisfied, is our biggest challenge.”
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