Chapman: Avoiding conversational discomfort deprives teams of feedback for growth
Diana Chapman · #130 Diana Chapman: Trusting Your Instincts · Feb 8, 2022 · at 6:09
Conscious leadership coach Diana Chapman describes working with a corporate team unable to give candid peer feedback due to physical anxiety.
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“And so what they do is they rob themselves and everybody else around them from feedback that could actually help us all learn and grow, which is what I started to point out to them.”
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