Maxwell: Affirmation without tangible achievement produces hollow self-confidence
John Maxwell · #80 John Maxwell: Developing the Leader in You · Mar 31, 2020 · at 26:36
Leadership author John Maxwell argues to Shane Parrish that genuine self-confidence must be earned through personal accomplishments rather than external praise.
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“If I don't back up that confidence that I feel, With success, that confidence will become very shallow and very hollow after a while, and that's why I tell people, you know, you could, like for a parent, you could affirm your children, tell them they're wonderful, and you know, they're going to do amazing things, but can I tell you something? They need to do some amazing things. The more I tell a person how good they are without them proving it to themselves, the more that that, those words just have lack meaning, and they lack influence.”
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