Heen: Teaching is fundamentally a negotiation for engagement and risk-taking
Sheila Heen · #57 Sheila Heen: Decoding Difficult Conversations · May 15, 2019 · at 4:25
Harvard Law School negotiation lecturer Sheila Heen explains the educational philosophy of Harvard Negotiation Project founder Roger Fisher.
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“Teaching itself is a negotiation. You are negotiating for people's engagement and willingness to take risks and to admit mistakes and to see what they have to learn”
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