People With Low Self-Esteem Tend to Dismiss Romantic Compliments
Greg Walton · #64 Greg Walton: The Big Impact of Small Interventions · Aug 20, 2019 · at 10:45
Stanford social psychologist Greg Walton discusses research by Denise Marigold regarding how low self-esteem distorts romantic relationship dynamics.
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“And so people with low self-esteem, they often tend to dismiss compliments from relationship partners. They think of them as something that he just had to say or something that she just had to say, and they don't take them to heart. They don't understand them as a reflection really of the Love and regard that their partner holds them in.”
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