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Q Can we come back to, like, the Catholic Church, and, and sort of, like, we're not taught how to be parents anymore? Is that a byproduct of, like, All of us working more, and living in a busier society, or is it?
A The theory is, and it's, it's really fascinating, was that before the 1500, people in Europe lived, like, people everywhere in the world, in these big kind of clans, or groups, like, groups of, like, family, like, big. And not, like, all one house, but kind of in the same neighborhood, and it was, um, you know, we, it was like communal living, right? And this, this is how, Children were raised for hundreds, thousands of years in these kind of big groups, and there's a lot of data to support that, and that's how Europeans were doing it. And then the Catholic Church came along about the 1500 and started having these laws to prevent close cousins from marrying and having children, which is totally legitimate, like biologically, you don't want to marry your first cousin and have a child. But over time, they started extending it out to, like, second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth cousins. I mean, you and I are sixth cousins, right? But we're not related at all. And it's, it, whether this was intentional or not, what it did was it broke up this, like, big, uh, family living, right? Because, like, you couldn't marry anymore into these groups, and it really, like, took intergenerational living and squashed it down slowly and slowly to what we now think of as, like, the nuclear family. So you go from living in an environment where You know, as a mom, I would have clearly an older sibling.…
AI assessment note: “what it did was it broke up this, like, big, uh, family living”
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Q And we have this saying, right? Like, it takes a village to raise kids, but it sounds like we don't actually create the village anymore.
A That's right. And it's funny because I always say, like, it doesn't take a village. It takes, like, five extra people. Like, you know, because if you look in some societies, so they're called alloparents. This is what, um, scientists call them. They're people in children's lives that are just as close to the child and just as important to the child as the mother and the father. They're, they're other parents, basically. And if you look, In most societies, children have, like, four or five of these. Very close. In some societies, they have, like, 12 or 15, but they're not very close. But there's amazing studies in some societies where, like, a baby, they'll track, like, how many times a baby is passed around to a different person in, like, an hour or two hours, and it's, like, something, like, 10 or 11 people in, like, an hour, like, just regularly. Think about that, like, when you had your kids, like, If you had 10 people, like, constantly helping you hold the baby, feed the baby, like, how much different your life would have been, right?
AI assessment note: “That's right. And it's funny because I always say, like, it doesn't take a village.”
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Q So before we sort of cover how we undo all of this, like, what did you learn? You traveled around the world. You found four different tribes that all taught in a, in a sort of different way. What are the key lessons that came out of that? Why is that important?
A I'm a reporter, and I spent 1312 years at NPR covering mostly viruses, and they would send me around the world, and I started to notice while I was traveling that parents didn't seem to have the same struggles as we did. You know, there were clearly struggles. There's struggles everywhere. I don't want to romanticize it, but what was really surprising to me, and why I went on this journey to, like, learn this other way of parenting was, When I came back to San Francisco and I tried some of these techniques and methods, because that's really what they are, um, they worked, like, amazing on my little girl in urban San Francisco. Like, it surprised, it, it really surprised me how quickly our relationship improved. She was, like, two at the time when I really started to try this.
AI assessment note: “I started to notice while I was traveling that parents didn't seem to have the same struggles”
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Q If you have a sixteen-year-old boy or girl, and they're on technology, like, how do you limit, how do they limit that as parents?
A I mean, I think some of it is like, and I'm not saying that anybody would know how to do this at all, because, um, I don't want to give that impression, but I think delay is absolutely the right word for many reasons, but also It's about making sure that it is, like you're talking about, like, it is not, the way it works in the brain is, is it narrows your desires and wants to this, to this one thing. That's, that's what happens over time. I mean, you see it with kids, right? It's like, all they do is be, or is on their phone, right? They do nothing else. And I think that, to me, is like, the key, and it's what you're talking about. It's like, Having these spaces and time and valuing of other things. And, and, I mean, we could talk about this for like an hour. We could like go on and on about this. Um, and I feel like we've kind of gone on a tangent, but.
AI assessment note: “Having these spaces and time and valuing of other things.”
