Jim Dethmer
37 statements across 2 episodes · 6 bullish · 2 bearish · 1 people on the record · first statement Jun 18, 2019 by Jim Dethmer · said 3 times in 2 episodes since 2022 · across every show →
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Jun 18, 2019 negative
Dethmer: Low Trust and Withholding Candor Create Slow, Sludge-Filled Decisions
“What we find is that when trust is low in relationships, teams, and organizations, people start withholding. And when people withhold decisions become far less effective and they get muddied up, we call them sludge. And so they get slower and wrong decisions g…”
Jun 18, 2019
Jun 18, 2019
Jun 18, 2019
Dethmer: Ego-driven investor conviction forces analysts to suppress contrary evidence
“So many times in the investment world, we want people to have conviction, but so much of this conviction is occurring at an egoic state from below the line. Now, what I mean by that is in order to get the PM to believe that my research is viable and to pull th…”
Jun 18, 2019
Dethmer: Emotions naturally dissipate from the body within 90 seconds
“And research, I first read this from Joe Bolte Taylor in Stroke of Insight. Great Ted talk. And then the follow on book, the Harvard brain researcher who said that feelings last less than 90 seconds. And that's true. In my experience, they actually often less …”
Jun 18, 2019 positive
Jun 18, 2019
Jun 18, 2019 neutral
Jun 18, 2019 neutral
Jun 18, 2019 positive
Dethmer: Self-awareness and locating internal state is foundational to conscious leadership
“The first key skill of conscious leaders is self-awareness that leads the pack. And the first act of self-awareness is, can I locate myself in this now moment? Am I open or closed? Am I in a state of trust or a state of threat?”
Jun 18, 2019 neutral
Jun 18, 2019
Dethmer: Owning psychological projections exponentially increases learning agility
“If everything you're complaining about, really complaining about in people in your world, if you were willing to eat the projection and see how the things you're complaining about other people are true about you would increase your learning agility exponential…”
Jun 18, 2019 positive
Dethmer: Leaders develop self-awareness through reflection, psychometrics, and feedback
“There are three ways you can grow in self-awareness. One is to become more self-reflective... The other way to grow in self-awareness is to use some instrument... And the third way to grow in self-awareness is to create an incredibly feedback rich environment …”
Jun 18, 2019
Jun 18, 2019 negative
Dethmer: Relying solely on extrinsic motivation creates escalating demands and zero-sum behavior
“If you're motivating your team solely by extrinsic reward, one of the things you know is you've got to keep increasing the capacity to keep feeding the consciousness that you've created. And it also creates people playing a zero sum game, which creates tremend…”
Jun 18, 2019
Center for Creative Leadership ranks self-awareness among top four core competencies
“The Center for Creative Leadership, when they first brought out their 67 core competencies, self-awareness, along with learning agility and communication and influences, We're the top four competencies that trumped all others.”
Jun 18, 2019
Jun 18, 2019
Dethmer: High performers fear self-acceptance will cost them their competitive edge
“Self-awareness is easier to train in world-class leaders than self-acceptance. Most of them have a superstitious belief that if they granted themselves a moment of self-acceptance, they'd lose their edge. That absent being constantly self-critical, self-evalua…”
Jun 18, 2019 positive
Jun 18, 2019
Dethmer: Feedback-rich cultures can eliminate formal annual performance reviews
“If you create feedback rich environments, like we're talking about here, you can let go of most formal feedback tools. You don't need to do a semi-annual or annual feedback things, which, you know, still gets rated as one of the things most people hate the mos…”
Jun 18, 2019 neutral
Mar 7, 2023
Dethmer: Radical responsibility is not a license to treat others poorly
“When I say I grant you agency for your experience, that's not, it doesn't live in me as a license for me to be an asshole. It doesn't go there. It doesn't say, well, you're responsible for your own experience. If you're upsetting yourself, that's your problem.…”
Mar 7, 2023
Dethmer: Facts never cause drama, only subjective stories do
“Facts never cause drama. Stories cause drama. And then you learn that you are the source of your stories, and that your drama is caused because you're wanting to be right about your stories, prove you're right, and make the other person wrong.”
Mar 7, 2023
Mar 7, 2023
Mar 7, 2023
Dethmer: Suppressing emotions causes exhaustion like holding beach balls underwater
“Here's what I didn't know, is the amount of energy it takes to repress and suppress emotion. I tell people now, it's like your emotions are like a beach ball, you know, and you take them and, ah, you try to hold them under the water, And the more inflated the …”
Mar 7, 2023 positive
Dethmer: Integrity is energetic wholeness and aliveness, not morality
“Integrity then tends to have more of a, like a moral or an ethical
Kind of orientation.
And the way I play with integrity is none of that.
But again, let's just do a little etymology here.
So integrity from the root same root as integer.
So think of whole numb…”
Mar 7, 2023 positive
Dethmer: Practicing radical responsibility restores personal energy and vitality
“A sure way for me to blunt my aliveness, my day-to-day experience of my vitality is to live in victimhood.
Blame the weather.
Blame the traffic.
What I notice is if I stop blaming, and I choose to move the locus of control back over here, and I choose to have …”
Mar 7, 2023
Dethmer: Most perceived personal threats in modern life target ego identity
“But for most of the people you and I know, they've created a world where they're safe and secure enough that the infringement isn't that. The vast majority of the infringement is the infringement on the identity. It's the infringement on the ego identity.”
Mar 7, 2023 neutral
Mar 7, 2023
Mar 7, 2023
Dethmer: Internal relational repair does not require the other person's cooperation
“There are two dimensions to repairing that relationship. One is literally repairing it with the other person, but there's a repair that can occur that doesn't require or even need to involve the other person. That's incredibly important because I don't need th…”
Mar 7, 2023
Mar 7, 2023
Dethmer: Broken and unclear agreements drain energy and create drama
“And I find that one of the ways people bleed off life energy is they don't make clear agreements. When they make clear agreements, they break their agreements, which creates a life force diminishment. It also creates drama and relationships.”
Mar 7, 2023 neutral
Dethmer: Average teams keep only 30% to 40% of mutual agreements
“When people in teams get aligned to be impeccable with agreements, they start keeping about 90% of their agreements. Now, when you go in and you look at a relationship or a team that's working together and you say, What percentage of agreements do you guys kee…”
Mar 7, 2023
Dethmer: Cognitive-emotive loops turn temporary feelings into chronic moods like resentment
“That turns into this cognitive motive loop, which you can stay in for years, and to your point, that turns into a mood. It's not a feeling anymore. Now it's not a feeling of anger. It's a mood of resentment. It's a mood of bitterness. Now it becomes a posture,…”
Mar 7, 2023
Dethmer: Individuals are the sole cause of their own emotional experience
“You are not the cause of my experience. You're not. However much we ever relate in life, you are not the cause of my experience. I would say it this way. I actually won't grant you that power. I am the cause of my experience. You act, and in this case, technol…”