Malik: Therapists Use Sensate Focus to Relieve Sexual Performance Anxiety
Dr. Rena Malik · Get Your Sex Life Back! What Everyone Gets Wrong About Sex & Libido: Dr. Rena Malik · Jun 11, 2025 · at 41:02
Urologist Dr. Rena Malik explains to Codie Sanchez how sex therapists use sensate focus exercises to help couples overcome psychological anxiety around intimacy.
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“Like the sex therapist will prescribe something called sensate focus. So what that is, is we say, you're not allowed to penetrate. You're not even allowed to touch the genitals. You, when you're with your partner, want to explore other areas, find your erogenous zones, touch everywhere, but don't touch the genitals and start really just like, there's no stress about that, right? You don't have to perform. Nothing has to happen like, but just touch each other and feel sensual and enjoy each other and figure out what feels good. And once you're like in your head and you're like, oh, wow, this is great. I'm enjoying it. Then you start touching genitals. And they're like, okay, now I'm not stressed about that either. Then we start talking about penetrative sex.”
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