Fisher: Constant anger diminishes authority whereas rare escalation commands attention
Jefferson Fisher · Number 1 Communication Expert: Stop Doing This… People Will Like You More | Jefferson Fisher · Apr 23, 2025 · at 8:59
Trial attorney Jefferson Fisher speaks with Codie Sanchez about communication strategy and emotional regulation.
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“If all you do is stay like a level eight or nine all the time and you're always angry, people don't know the difference between what's a level 10 threat and what's still just your norm threat. So what's, what really is the difference? Now, if I'm always at a three, And then I need to raise to an eight. You can better believe they're going to listen because they go, whoa, this is out of the blue. This isn't his normal. This is different. If you're always up there at the top, nobody's going to know the difference and they really won't listen to it.”
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