Alain de Botton

23 statements across 1 episodes · 3 bullish · 7 bearish · 1 people on the record · first statement Nov 18, 2024 by Alain de Botton · said 2 times in 2 episodes since 2016 · across every show →

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Nov 18, 2024
Insight
Alain de Botton: Children absorb parental beliefs through subtle micro-moments
“But there's lots of indirect ways in which one person can influence another by suggesting what would make them happy, what they believe in. You don't have to, you know, you can talk about one thing and actually be talking about another. And when children grow …”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 22:56 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
Alain de Botton: Society Pursues Wealth for Respect, Not Materialism
“People often say we're very materialistic nowadays. We're not particularly materialistic. What we are is we're hungry for status, for love, respect, dignity, and we live in a world in which that status is available via the acquisition of material goods.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 2:34 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
De Botton: Self-discovered insights carry far more weight than pre-packaged advice
“An insight that a person reaches themselves is worth, you know, much, much more than an insight which has been given to them pre-prepared by somebody else.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 13:47 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024 negative
Insight
De Botton: Striving to matter is the root of unhappiness
“It's the constant striving to matter, and to feel that you are immortal, that is at the origin of unhappiness”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 29:52 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
De Botton: Most parents subconsciously resist their children having better lives
“You have to be fairly settled in yourself to allow a child to have a better life than you had. I know the cliches that every parent wants that. No. I don't, I mean, I, experience does not bear that out.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 21:46 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024 positive
Insight
De Botton: Remote work benefits self-motivated workers with clear internal goals
“There are many people who are actually quite, you know, well motivated. They can see the goal. They don't need a reminder of their colleague. They got the colleagues in their heads. They don't need to see the building. They don't need to see the logo. They don…”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 46:16 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
De Botton: Children raised well lack the desire to be famous
“A marker of good parenting is that your child doesn't have any wish to be famous.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 11:25 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024 positive
Insight
De Botton: Every human unhappiness represents an unfulfilled business idea
“Every time encounter any kind of unhappiness, you're encountering, ah, something that's a business idea that might not have come to fruition.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 59:29 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
De Botton: Believing modern times are unprecedented is false and exhausting
“One of the ills of the modern age is this belief that we are always in unparalleled, uncharted waters, and that's an exhausting, and I think untrue you know perspective on things.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 7:37 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024 negative
Insight
De Botton: Isolation in remote work can trigger existential identity crises
“There's a working identity crisis that can be spurred by remote working, which is, you know, I trained as an accountant, I took the exams, I'm now part of a gigantic accounting firm, et cetera, but now it's 12 o'clock, and I've been in my room, and I'm very fa…”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 47:16 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024 negative
Prediction Not checkable as stated
De Botton: Humans are fated to die having barely understood existence
“All of us are fated to run out of time before we've done more than scratch the surface, which is, you know, real existential agony.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 1:10:37 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024 negative
Opinion
De Botton: Religion naturally encourages authoritarianism and dogmatism
“Religious ideology is terribly prone to engaging a side of human nature which is really unfortunate which is around authoritarianism, dogmatism black and white thinking you know, friend or foe thinking.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 30:57 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
De Botton: Adult independence stems from unconditional childhood love
“And, you know, and on the whole, psychologists would argue, you know, I think it's almost common sense, that the amount of independence that you're capable of in adulthood is directly related to the amount of love and esteem you were given as a child from peop…”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 4:02 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
De Botton: Office work provides relief through professional inauthenticity
“Sometimes people have spent a concentrated period with their friends and family, normally family of Christmas or whatever they may be aching to get back to work because the true self of themselves and of those around them is just slightly unbearable and they'r…”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 48:16 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
De Botton: Human nature remains unchanged despite advancing technology
“The human animal doesn't change. Our constitution is the same now as it was, you know, thousands of years ago, and that Puts a cap, really, on the amount of novelty that we're able to build. We build a lot of new tools. We are tool builders. We always have bee…”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 8:21 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
Alain de Botton: Identifying personal strengths is as difficult as finding passion
“I would say it's as hard to figure out what you're good at as it is almost as it is to know what you love.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 40:16 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
De Botton: Parents are often envious of their own children
“Envy is one of the key motivators, and people are envious of their children.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 21:26 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024 positive
Insight
De Botton: The faculty to spot entrepreneurial opportunities exists in everyone
“I think that entrepreneurial opportunity, and to be able to see entrepreneurial opportunity, is, is a faculty that exists in a latent form inside everybody.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 1:01:58 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024 negative
Opinion
De Botton: Corporate 'family' rhetoric creates problematic contradictions
“When companies start talking about loving their employees and being a family, etc., they've tied themselves in a knot. They've borrowed the language of private life. In order to foster a short-term sense of togetherness.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 0:22 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024 negative
Insight
De Botton: People should not bring their full selves to work
“I don't think you should bring your full self anywhere, because if we really think about what your full self is, it includes, you know, infantile bits of you when you were two, bits of you that are full of rage, bits of you that are full of envy and bitterness…”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 49:25 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
De Botton: Legitimate ambition means pursuing human flourishing over status
“The most legitimate ambition is in some ways to bite off some area of the eudaimonic project and make that the thing that you pursue according to your talents.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 12:46 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024
Insight
De Botton: Lacking a plan leaves people prey to others
“If you don't have a plan, you're full prey to the plans of others. And what goes wrong often in people's lives is they don't really have a plan.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 0:16 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
Nov 18, 2024 negative
Insight
De Botton: Career identity must be assembled from fragments, not external callings
“It's not going to come ready made like a sort of, as an external voice. You have to assemble from fragments, a whole working identity and mission.”
Alain de Botton Nov 18, 2024 ▶ 45:28 Alain De Botton: Why Status is Making You Miserable & Why Parents Want Their Kids to Fail · 20VC with Harry Stebbings
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