Arata: Initial response to misconduct claims must avoid defensiveness or invalidation
Ray Arata · Why Men Hung Up After 20 Minutes But Women Had a Long List · May 18, 2022 · at 13:32
Better Man Movement founder Ray Arata advises host Sean Weisbrot on how men and corporate leaders should initially conduct themselves when presented with allegations of misconduct.
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“One of the things I've learned to do when someone speaks to an experience that they've had at the hands, not literally, but as a result of the experience of the man is the one thing you don't want to do initially is defend, invalidate, make light of their experience.”
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