Sethi: Financial Optimizers Make Difficult Romantic Partners
Ramit Sethi · 56 Minutes of Money Wisdom for High-Earning Couples · Jan 6, 2025 · at 6:29
Personal finance author Ramit Sethi breaks down the psychological downsides of hyper-rational 'optimizer' money personalities in relationships.
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“Optimizers are really hard to be partners with because they always go, how much does it cost? That's all they're concerned with”
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