Perel: Modern workplaces bear emotional burdens previously met by communal structures
Esther Perel · Esther Perel: Build better relationships at work | Masters of Scale · May 22, 2025 · at 25:35
Therapist Esther Perel discusses how the erosion of traditional community and religious structures has shifted expectations onto careers and romantic partners.
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“I think that both work and home today are carrying the burdens of a ton of needs and expectations that used to be distributed in religion. Extended family and communal structures. And all these needs have been transferred into work and into love, which are the two primary poles of our lives. So we demand, you know, things at work that have to do with purpose and identity and meaning and self fulfillment and all of this, which we also demand in our romantic relationships.”
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