Kenneth Berger
20 statements across 1 episodes · 12 bullish · 1 bearish · 1 people on the record · first statement May 19, 2024 by Kenneth Berger · across every show →
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May 19, 2024 positive
May 19, 2024 positive
Berger: Regularly making requests prevents self-deception and frustration
“And I think to me, the flip side of that is, is sort of the reason that the stakes around asking for what you want are so high because yeah, you know, if you're, we can't guarantee we're going to get what we want, but if we're asking for it regularly, if we're…”
May 19, 2024 positive
Berger: Clear asks require sticking strictly to facts and direct observations
“There's kind of rough consensus, you know, in, in the sort of personal development world of how to ask, and really what they have in common is around kind of staying really factual, because, you know, I think that, you know, what can we know factually? Well, w…”
May 19, 2024 negative
May 19, 2024 positive
May 19, 2024 neutral
Berger: Assume your erratic founder is simply terrified by high stakes
“My clue to people who report to a founder is to say, imagine if you're confused about How your founder is behaving. Imagine that they're terrified all the time, right? And see if that makes their behavior more clear. Because it is scary to be a founder, right?…”
May 19, 2024 positive
Berger: Asking clearly with humility works whether in power or not
“I think one of the most important balances in terms of the asking step is both asking clearly, but asking with great humility. And this actually works whether you're in a position of power or not, because I think a lot of folks will go so far to the end of hum…”
May 19, 2024 positive
May 19, 2024 positive
Berger: Founders should hold relationship design talks with first 10-20 hires
“And it's actually something that I recommend to a lot of founders for, you know, maybe their first, you know, 10 or 15 or 20 employees of just have like a relationship design conversation with each of them when they're first hired.”
May 19, 2024
Berger: Demanding zero risk of upsetting others stalls effective communication
“That question of, oh, how do I do it without there being any risk of ever pissing anyone off? That's a piece of the resistance right there. And so this is a great example of the type of work that we have to do, right? Because, you know, in theory, asking is ea…”
May 19, 2024
Berger: People-pleasing offers short-term safety but costs long-term fulfillment
“I mean, I think the people pleaser coping strategy is one of the sort of most classic and it is effective, right? In the short term, right? Like, oh, you can feel safe and calm when other people are generally happy with you. And the cost tends to be long-term.”
May 19, 2024
May 19, 2024
Berger: Managerial entitlement stems from failing to ask for what you want
“One mode of not asking for what you want well is kind of holding back and not really saying it out loud. And I think another really common mode is coming with a lot of entitlement of like, you know what? You better do what I say. I'm your boss. You're my repor…”
May 19, 2024 positive
Berger: Tuning into subtle discomfort helps clarify unstated desires
“For those folks, often what I'm encouraging to do is to really tune into the parts of them that maybe aren't so fine. Like, gosh, I, I'd really, you know, I prefer it a little bit if things were this way, or I'm a little bit bothered by this, or I'm a little b…”
May 19, 2024 positive
Berger: Overcoming resistance requires validating internal fear rather than suppressing it
“To sort of ask effectively, we generally need to embrace all these parts and really bring in all the information they're bringing in. Because if we ignore the part that's really scared to ask, well, yeah, then we're going to stay stuck.”
May 19, 2024 positive
May 19, 2024 positive
Berger: Treat any commitment short of a 'hell yes' as a no
“And so I think part of what I encourage people to do is one, to really hear anything short of a hell yes as a no, right? And so it's not a bad thing, right? Mostly the world tells us no. It's actually really great data. It helps us figure out what are we going…”
May 19, 2024
Berger: Psychological resistance makes asking for what you want difficult
“What's hard there is the resistance, right? The parts of us that are not so excited about that, the things asking for what we want is scary and articulating a big dream that we might not get is, is really scary. Cause God, what if I don't get it? What does tha…”
May 19, 2024