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Introducing Therapists to Non-Clinical Children Undermines Both Parents and Kids
“It doesn't require a therapeutic expert who's going to undermine the parent's authority with their kids and make the kids, because it makes a kid feel like, oh, my parent, I, my problems are too big for my parents to handle, so they needed to call in this othe…”
Diagnosing Ordinary Misbehavior Strips Children of Their Agency
“We would pathologize ordinary behaviors and treat them to see themselves as disordered. Oh, that's just, you know, you have ADHD. Oh, that's your oppositional defiance disorder. That's why you acted out. So instead of using the sort of lay terms we've always u…”
Prompting Children to Ruminate on Their Trauma Sabotages Their Resilience
“Instead, we tell the kids the opposite. Your parents are divorced. You've had trauma. Let's talk about it. It's the worst thing we could do for a kid who'd been through something hard.”
Mental Health Is a Byproduct of Living Well, Not Direct Work
“Mental health is not something you work on. It's something that happens while you're living a good life.”
Research Shows That Making Happiness a Goal Causes Unhappiness
“The researchers can tell you, and there's a lot of good research on this, making happiness your goal is a way to make you unhappy.”
Children Need Adult Authority, Not Universal Emotional Affirmation
“So the last thing we want to do is what we've been doing is affirm every one of their emotions, no matter how
Extreme or dysregulated and then talk to them as if we're all just, you know, feelers here.
We're all just emotional feelers trying to understand each…”
Holding Children to Strict Academic Expectations Conveys Belief in Their Capacity
“Holding kids to high standards, high expectations gives them a sense. It honors them with the sense that they have capacity. They have capability. Obviously, if you disappoint, if you, if you're giving a kid a zero, what you're saying is you could have done th…”