Duckworth: Apparent laziness in kids often stems from lacking small mastery wins
Angela Duckworth · #109 Angela Duckworth: Grit and Human Behavior · Apr 20, 2021 · at 41:04
Psychologist Angela Duckworth explains how risk aversion and perceived laziness in children can be addressed through deliberate small wins and mastery experiences.
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“And if your kid is like driving you nuts because they are not taking risks and they seem to be, you know, afraid of failure and that, by the way, that sometimes looks like laziness, right? Even though it's underneath the surface, not at all laziness. Ask yourself, like, maybe they are not confident because they haven't had a string of experiences to make them confident, right? So if Here again, the person versus the situation, like maybe your underconfident child is that way because of series of situations. And, you know, all of the great coaches and teachers do this, that you kind of just like engineer these, you know, small wins, make things like bite size enough that there can be a few at bats and a few hits.”
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