Headlee: Unsolicited Advice Is Almost Always a Bad Idea
Celeste Headlee · #51 Celeste Headlee: The Dying Art of Conversation · Feb 5, 2019 · at 45:55
Author Celeste Headlee outlines why unsolicited advice harms conversational outcomes and emotional receptivity.
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“We do not like to get unsolicited advice, which is pretty much always a bad idea. That's the time in which we're going to come away, even if we have learned something valuable, we'll come away not feeling great about it.”
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