Kim Scott: Ask colleagues for feedback when they are angry with you
Kim Malone Scott · a16z Podcast | Giving and Getting Feedback -- for Bosses and Employees · Jan 2, 2019 · at 7:57
Author Kim Malone Scott shares advice originally from former Google SVP of Engineering Alan Eustace on soliciting workplace feedback.
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“Alan Eustace, who was the head of engineering at Google, said one of the best times to ask for feedback is when you know the other person is mad at you, because they're more likely to tell you what they really think.”
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