Toronto: Banning work talk makes professional dinner gatherings much more powerful
Phil Toronto · 3 Non-Obvious Networking Strategies That Work · Aug 31, 2023 · at 49:17
Phil Toronto, Partner at Vayner/RSE, discusses hosting impactful community dinners and how banning work conversations transforms social dynamics.
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“The pinnacle rule was you cannot talk about work. Or what you do. And that in and of itself was powerful. And I think freeing at the same time, because I think a crutch that people tend to use for better or for worse is just the first question out of your mouth. What do you do? It's like, that's a pretty loaded question. And usually the context means like, what do you do for work? But it could be anything, but eliminating that I think is really key.”
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