Terry: Asking for help signals confidence and gives value to others
Phyl Terry · Land your dream job in today’s market: negotiation tactics, job search councils, more | Phyl Terry · Sep 12, 2024 · at 1:14:58
Phyl Terry, author of Never Search Alone and founder of Collaborative Gain, shares principles on professional mentorship and seeking assistance.
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“Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It's a sign of confidence. It both requires confidence and strengthens it, Lenny. That's number one. Two, it's not a taking activity. It's a giving activity. If you do it well, you're actually being giving to the people you ask.”
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