Matt Abrahams
10 statements across 1 episodes · 5 bullish · 2 bearish · 1 people on the record · first statement Mar 31, 2024 by Matt Abrahams · across every show →
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Mar 31, 2024
Mar 31, 2024 positive
Abrahams: Visualization desensitizes public speaking anxiety like a flight simulator
“This notion of visualization as a tool of desensitization actually can be very helpful, but you're not visualizing the audience half naked. What you're doing is you're visualizing yourself in that space. You're visualizing the audience responding to you and wh…”
Mar 31, 2024 positive
Abrahams: Structure effective event toasts using the WHAT framework
“So I have an acronym. It works. It's called WHAT. W-H-A-T. So the W stands for why are we here? Now, if I'm at a wedding, I don't have to tell the audience why we're here. We get it. But if we're doing an all hands and I'm called up to speak, it might be in my…”
Mar 31, 2024 positive
Abrahams: Constructive feedback should follow the Four Is framework
“So in the four I structure, the first I is information. You're just setting the playing field, so the person knows what you're giving the feedback about. The second is impact, and this is impact on you, the feedback giver. The third is the invitation that you …”
Mar 31, 2024 negative
Abrahams: Classic influence advice risks sounding manipulative and inauthentic
“I know the book. Some of the stuff, I, some of that stuff has been true for a long time. Some of the stuff, I'm not a big fan of ingratiation and manipulation. So I like authenticity and some of the advice in books like that can sound like smile, nod your head…”
Mar 31, 2024 negative
Abrahams: Saying 'sorry you feel bad' fails to assume responsibility
“And when we apologize, we need to make sure that we apologize for the transgression and not for how we made people feel. So often people will simply say, I'm sorry that you feel bad. Well, that's not an apology that, that that's, you know, you're not, Assuming…”
Mar 31, 2024
Abrahams: Structuring presentations as self-conversations reduces anxiety
“A great technique to help people that I, that often isn't talked about is many of us feel much more comfortable in conversation than we do in presenting. And conversation is a back and forth. So you can actually set up a lot of your communication situations, a…”
Mar 31, 2024 positive
Abrahams: Striving for connection over perfection frees cognitive bandwidth
“Strive for connection over perfection. By daring to be dull, just get the task done. Just answer the question. Just give the feedback. Just be engaged in the small talk. And by doing that, you dial down the volume of self-evaluation, freeing up resources that …”
Mar 31, 2024
Mar 31, 2024 positive
Abrahams: Meaningful apologies require the three-step AAA framework
“So you acknowledge the actual behavior and offense, not how you made the person feel right away. You then express appreciation for the difficulty you might've caused, and then you make amends. And the AAA approach I think can really be helpful to people to be …”