Asking for permission grants others the power to say no
Carla Harris · Carla Harris – Pearls of Career Wisdom (Capital Allocators, EP.267) · Aug 22, 2022 · at 46:37
Morgan Stanley Senior Client Advisor Carla Harris discusses strategic career lessons and workplace agency from a letter written to her twenty-five-year-old self.
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“Sometimes you find yourself asking for permission of someone that doesn't have the power to tell you no, but because you asked them, you gave them the power to tell you no.”
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