Why managers avoid giving appearance feedback to young female employees
Ada Chen Rekhi · How to make better decisions and build a joyful career | Ada Chen Rekhi (Notejoy, LinkedIn) · Apr 16, 2023 · at 55:54
Executive coach Ada Chen Rekhi discusses why unwritten professional norms and appearance standards hold back underrepresented leaders in Silicon Valley.
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“It turns out that in a career context, it's so unsafe for your manager to turn to a young woman on the team and say, here, let me give you feedback on your physical appearance and how it affects your competence and how you're perceived in the workforce, that the vast majority of them will just never do it. Cause there's no winning”
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