Terry: Never disguise an ask for help as doing someone a favor
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Phyl Terry discusses best practices and etiquette for asking professional contacts for favors and introductions.
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“Where I want you to do me a favor. Okay. But I'm actually acting like I'm doing you a favor. Lenny, I have this person to talk to. I know it's really gonna be great for you to talk to. When really I'm trying to, you know, to get you to give me, whereas I should have said, Lenny, I have a favor to ask. Would you be willing to do this? You can say yes or no. You know, they say, I really want you to be honest with people about what you're asking. I never want you to hide the ask.”
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