Montebello: Focus talk prep on audience memory, not what you say
Tristan de Montebello · Why most public speaking advice is wrong—and how to finally overcome anxiety | Tristan de Montebello · Oct 13, 2024 · at 1:38:29
Tristan de Montebello, co-creator of Ultraspeaking, explains his 'Bow and Arrow' communication framework during a discussion on presentation design.
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“And the mistake that most people do when they're preparing a talk, a presentation in all hands, a meeting, whatever it is, is we tend to focus more on what we want to say Than what we want our audience to remember. So the mindset shift here is stop focusing as much on what you want to say and focus more on what you want your audience to remember.”
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