Lessin: Founders should always offer to pay the bill with VCs
Sam Lessin · How to show up in any room with a low heart rate: Silicon Valley’s missing etiquette playbook · Jan 15, 2026 · at 35:02
Slow Ventures partner Sam Lessin outlines dinner etiquette and social power dynamics when founders meet investors.
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“Within reason, always offer to pay. Now, you should be turned down, right? If you go out with a VC, right, and you're like, you know, you put a card down, 99% of the time, they'll be like, I got this, like, please, like, this is, don't worry about it, right?”
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