Cain: Introverts often lose touch with preferences due to extroverted culture
Susan Cain · The hidden power of introverts: How to thrive without changing who you are | Susan Cain · Mar 16, 2025 · at 7:58
Author Susan Cain explains why many introverts struggle to identify their true personal and social preferences.
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“For introverts in an extroverted culture, we spend so much time kind of unconsciously adapting to what we think our preferences are supposed to be that I hear from many people that they kind of have lost touch with how they actually prefer to spend their time.”
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